Katia’s Sex Dictionary

A guide of sexual act ‘definitions’ to spark ideas and help you envision what you might enjoy during our time together.

If you're new to intimacy, understanding various sexual acts can help you articulate your desires and preferences more clearly. I have created a guide to some sexual acts to spark ideas and help you envision what you might enjoy during our time together.

Katia Schwartz and Andi are sex workers based in Sydney, Australia. They are featured in a black and white photo, with Katia on top of Andi - posing seductively on the floor. They are both wearing black lingerie.

This list isn’t exhaustive, it’s just aimed to give beginners an idea of what they can ask for in their session.

  • The 69 position involves mutual oral sex where both partners simultaneously pleasure each other. It's a way to experience give and take pleasure simultaneously. I don’t ‘love’ this position as I prefer the notion of ‘turn taking’, but it’s not off the table for me if you enjoy it and/or want to give it a try.

  • Anal play involves stimulation of the anus, either externally or internally, using fingers, toys, or other objects. It can be a source of pleasure for many people, regardless of gender or sexual orientation.

  • Fingering refers to the manual insertion of fingers into the vagina or anus. It can be an excellent way to explore and understand a partner's body. I personally don’t enjoy vaginal fingering on me, but I’m happy to explore this act on other people. 

  • Fisting involves inserting a hand or fist into the vagina or anus. It requires trust, communication, and preparation to ensure safety and pleasure. I personally don’t enjoy fisting on me, but I love exploring this act on other people. I am experienced with fisting, and can help you work your way up to it if you haven’t done it before.

  • A hand job involves manual stimulation of a partner's penis or clitoris using hands. It can be a pleasurable and intimate act that allows partners to explore different rhythms and pressures.

  • Kissing involves pressing one's lips against another person's lips or other parts of the body. It can range from gentle pecks to passionate exchanges. I enjoy kissing on my body or on a client’s body - however I really don’t like neck or ear kisses. This is because heavy breathing or movement around that area goes directly into my hearing aids and it’s super uncomfortable. I enjoy passionate kissing on the mouth, but I don’t love excessive tongue or biting. Let me show you how I like to kiss… I think you’ll love it.

  • Mutual masturbation involves two or more partners stimulating themselves in each other's presence. It can be a great way to explore individual desires and share an intimate experience.

  • Nipple play involves stimulating the nipples through touching, licking, sucking, pinching or using toys. Nipples are erogenous zones for many people and can enhance sexual arousal when stimulated. I’m not a fan of nipple play on myself, but I do enjoy having my breasts touched gently in general. 

  • Oral sex involves using the mouth and tongue to stimulate a partner's genitals. This can include fellatio (oral on a penis) and cunnilingus (oral on a vulva) and is a common and enjoyable sexual activity for many people. Please remember that I only offer ‘covered’ services. 

  • Sex toys are devices designed to enhance sexual pleasure and can include vibrators, dildos, anal beads, and more. Incorporating toys into play can add variety and excitement to sexual experiences.

  • Strap-on play involves using a strap-on dildo for penetration. It can be used by people of any gender and can be an exciting way to explore new sensations and roles. I am experienced using a strap on both anally and vaginally. If you’ve never worn a strap-on before, it can be a little difficult to use at first. However, I'm happy to teach you!

  • Tribbing or scissoring involves two partners rubbing their genitals together for mutual stimulation. Scissoring is not a service that I offer in bookings as it presents more of a sexual health risk than other activities. However, I can explain and show how it can work with our clothing on if you are interested in learning.