First Timers

First time seeing a sex worker, or perhaps it’s your first time being intimate with someone altogether? Don’t worry, everyone has a ‘first time’ and it’s really normal to feel nervous and excited at the same time. This page will hopefully answer most of the questions running through your head. 

I’m feeling anxious about meeting you - is this normal?

It’s completely normal to feel nervous about meeting me, or any sex worker for the first time. In fact, I still feel a little nervous meeting any person for the first time (clients or otherwise!). But there’s nothing to worry about - I’m an expert at making people feel at ease. Remember, it’s my job to create good vibes and relieve any awkwardness!

Katia Schwartz is a lingerie model based in Sydney Australia. She is posing on a couch in a room with red lighting and floral wallpaper. She is wearing a blush coloured fringe dress and large gold necklace.

Do you see virgins?

Absolutely, I'm more than happy to see people who haven’t been intimate before! I’ve had plenty of clients that have little to no sexual experience and I love being able to support them to explore physical intimacy. With that said, I don't offer discounts based on whether someone is a ‘virgin’ or not. 

  • Seeing a sex worker for the first time can be both exhilarating and nerve-wracking. I aim to make your first encounter with me as comfortable and beautiful as possible. I provide a more detailed explanation of what happens in a booking on my “Service Questions” FAQ page.

  • When booking a hotel, it's always best to keep things vague and general. If anyone at the hotel asks about your stay or who you're with, you can simply say you're visiting a friend or in town for a business meeting. It's perfectly normal for people to have visitors during their stay, and hotels are accustomed to a variety of arrangements. Remember, the key is to act naturally and confidently.

  • I genuinely find something unique and likeable in everyone I meet, as I don't have a specific 'type' of lover. What truly matters to me is mutual respect, kindness, hygiene, and generosity. If we both approach our time together with these qualities in mind, I'm confident we'll have a memorable and enjoyable experience.

  • I completely understand that meeting someone new, especially for an intimate encounter, can be nerve-wracking. I approach every client, especially those new to this experience, with patience, empathy, and understanding. My bookings with first-timers are always super relaxed and welcoming from the moment we meet. If you’re a socially awkward person - don’t worry, I’m the opposite! I’m naturally very bossy and curious, so you won’t have to worry about thinking of things to say, or not knowing what to do. I actually love nervous first-timers - you’re the sweetest and I will have so much fun blowing your mind!

  • Your comfort and enjoyment are so important to me. Right from the start, I love to have an open chat to get to know your desires, boundaries, and what you're hoping to get out of our time together. I create a warm, welcoming space where we both feel relaxed and connected. I also check in with you throughout our time together to make sure we're on the same page.

While we’re on the topic of limited sexual experiences, I want to share my perspective on the concept of ‘virginity’. Without getting too political, virginity is a social construct that can be quite ableist and queer-phobic. It also gives off religious ‘purity’ vibes, which reinforces patriarchal views of gender. 

Virginity also often narrowly defines sex as strictly ‘penis-in-vagina’, which doesn't actually encompass the vast range of intimate experiences people can have. I want us to think of intimacy as a unique and personal experience. Let’s get rid of stigmatising labels, like ‘virgin’ and ‘slut’ that make negative assumptions about what people have/haven’t done in the bedroom (and how often).

What should I do/know before our session?

Remember, it's natural to feel a bit nervous when trying something new. Above all, relax and be yourself! The fact you’re asking this question and reading this page is pretty a good indication that you’ll be a perfect client. 

To help ensure our time together is smooth and enjoyable, I recommend taking a few moments to familiarise yourself with the information provided on my website. Some useful links are:

Do you have any tips for someone new to seeing a sex worker?

  • Research: Take your time to browse through my website and familiarise yourself with my services and FAQs. This will give you a clearer idea of what to expect and help ease any worries.

  • Open Communication: Don't hesitate to communicate your desires, boundaries, and concerns with me once you’ve paid your deposit. Clear communication ensures that our time together is tailored to your preferences and comfort.

  • Respect Boundaries: Always respect the boundaries set by the sex worker. If something is off-limits, it's essential to honour that boundary without pushing for exceptions.

  • Hygiene: A fresh and clean appearance is appreciated. Take a thorough shower before our session and remember to wash… everything! For the love of god, please wash your asshole and use soap. 

  • Be Respectful: Treat me with the same respect and courtesy you would expect from any other professional. Mutual respect creates a more enjoyable and relaxed atmosphere for both of us.

  • Payment: Ensure you have the agreed-upon cash payment ready at the beginning of our session. This shows respect and eliminates any awkwardness regarding payment later.

  • Relax and Enjoy: Remember, this experience is all about mutual pleasure and connection. Try to relax, be yourself, and enjoy the moment.

  • I've intentionally designed my packages to be straightforward and flexible, ensuring that we can tailor our time together to best suit your desires and preferences. If you're unsure about which service or package to select, there's no need to stress. After you've made a deposit, we can engage in a brief exchange where I'll take the time to understand more about you and the experience you're seeking. This way, I can offer personalised recommendations and ensure that our time together is exactly what you're hoping for. We can also change the type of service you selected originally, so don’t feel too pressured when you’re filling out the booking request. 

  • Open communication is essential throughout our time together. If at any point you feel uncomfortable, uneasy, or wish to stop, please tell me straight away. We can pause, adjust our activities, or even end the session if that's what you prefer. It's important for both of us to feel respected and safe. I encourage you to communicate your feelings and boundaries openly, and I'll do the same. 

  • Before our session, take some time to reflect on what you're comfortable with and what you're looking forward to. At the beginning of our first session, I will always prompt you to tell me what your boundaries are, and remind you of mine. I’ll also ask you what you enjoy, and you can have the opportunity to ask me this back.

    When discussing your boundaries and preferences, be clear and direct. If you're unsure about something or want to clarify a particular service or activity, just ask. During our session, I always check in with you to ensure you're feeling comfortable and that your boundaries are being respected. So you’ll have plenty of prompts to tell me what you want to do, and how you’re feeling if you are too nervous to bring it up yourself.

  • That's completely okay! It's entirely normal to feel nervous when seeing a sex worker for the first time, and especially if it's your first sexual experience altogether. I'm more than happy to go at a pace that feels comfortable for you. Communication is essential, so please let me know your boundaries and preferences.

    If you'd like to explore a connection without the immediate intimacy, you might consider booking one of my online experience packages or a social date. We can always see where our time together takes us.

  • It's important to remember that everyone's body responds differently, and there's no pressure to perform in any specific way. If you experience challenges with arousal, wetness, or achieving orgasm, please communicate with me prior to, or during our session. We can adjust to suit your needs and preferences. Sometimes, the connection and experience itself can be incredibly fulfilling, irrespective of specific physical outcomes. Remember, our time together is about mutual pleasure and exploration, not meeting rigid expectations.